The Deeper Meaning of Self-Care: Nourishing Body, Mind, and Spirit

Since 2020, when the world shifted and everything familiar seemed to change, awareness about mental health has grown in beautiful ways. People are becoming more self-aware and realizing how important it is to take care of themselves. Yet when I bring up the topic of self-care in session and ask clients what they do for it, the answers are often surface-level. Many women mention bubble baths, hair appointments, or getting their nails done. When I ask the men, they often pause, look unsure, and ask, “What do you mean?”

The truth is that self-care is for everyone, and it is so much more than pampering. It is not indulgence—it is maintenance. It is how we refuel and restore so that we can show up well for the people and purposes that matter most. Self-care is not selfish; it is sacred stewardship of the life and body God has given us.

Let’s start with a few interesting self-care facts:

• Only 30% of Americans set aside time for self-care.

• Single people are more consistent about it than those who are married or in relationships.

• Men actually report being more consistent with self-care than women.

• Nearly half of Americans prefer at-home routines, like spa days or relaxation.

• On average, people spend only about 65 minutes per week on self-care.

• And 64% believe self-care can boost confidence (Team, 2023).

So, what are we waiting for?

Many of you have probably heard of The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman, which helps couples and families better connect. But have you ever thought about using those same love languages yourself? They can be a simple and meaningful guide for creating a more balanced and nurturing relationship with your own heart and mind.

Let’s look at each love language and how it might apply to self-care.

Words of Affirmation

Do you speak kindly to yourself? If you would not say a thought out loud to someone you love, do not say it to yourself. Replace “stinkin’ thinkin’” with gentler truths. Practice positive self-talk, say daily affirmations, or journal encouraging words to yourself. Give yourself pep talks the same way you would encourage a friend.

Receiving Gifts

When was the last time you treated yourself to something meaningful? Buy yourself flowers, take a small trip, invest in a new book, or get supplies for a hobby that makes you happy. The point is not the cost—it is the care behind the gesture. You are worth small acts of kindness, even from yourself.

Quality Time

Do you spend time alone with yourself? Turn off the noise—the TV, the podcast, the notifications—and sit with your thoughts, your prayers, or simple stillness. Schedule quiet time to check in on your emotional health before it becomes urgent. Take yourself on a coffee date, relax, and spend time in Scripture or reflection.

Physical Touch

Practice gentle self-soothing habits. This might mean stretching, taking a long walk, getting a massage, or simply resting under a soft blanket. Healthy, nurturing touch helps calm the nervous system and re-centers the body when life feels heavy.

Acts of Service

Show love to yourself by caring for your environment and your body. Clean a small space, organize your desk, or prepare a nourishing meal. Make appointments you’ve been putting off. Go to therapy. Serve others, too—because helping those around you also fills the soul.

Self-care is not meant to feel forced or like another thing on your to-do list. It should be something you look forward to, a rhythm that brings you peace and clarity. One way to think about self-care is through the different areas of wellness: emotional, spiritual, intellectual, physical, environmental, financial, occupational, and social. Consider where you’re thriving and where you may need extra attention.

And remember what flight attendants always say before takeoff: put on your own oxygen mask before helping someone else. That’s not selfish—it’s essential. Without caring for your mind and body, you cannot be your best self in the areas that matter most. Neglecting self-care eventually shows up in every part of life.

The Bible reminds us, “Do you not know that your bodies are temples of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God?” (1 Corinthians 6:19, NIV). Caring for yourself is an act of gratitude to God for the life He’s entrusted to you.

If you need support developing self-care habits that nourish your whole self, we would love to walk beside you. At Inspire Therapeutic Solutions, we have therapists and interns ready to help you strengthen your emotional, spiritual, and mental wellness. You don’t have to do it alone.

With grace and hope, 

~Jami 

Rooted in Christ; helping hearts heal and minds find peace.

Helpful Links for Your Journey

• The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman

• How to Create Your Own Self-Care Plan

• Self-Care for Kids

• Self-Care Habits, Ideas, & Lifestyle

• Self-Care: Where Do I Start? – Mental Health First Aid

References 

Kapil, R. (2022, March 14). How and why to practice self-care. Mental Health First Aid. Team, S. (2023, May 13). 21 self-care statistics for a healthier you in 2024. Social.